Friday, January 14, 2011

Too Young?

There are days when I just don't feel all that well.  Last Monday was one of those days.  I call my approach to rearing my children on these days "parenting of least resistance".  Which is to say, that I relax and if what they are getting into isn't
a. flammable
b. sharp
c. poisonous
d. prone to extreme staining
I probably don't put up much of a fuss.  This is highly different from my normal style of parenting, which to my surprise when I became a parent is much more controlling than I thought  would be.  Like, "don't put those panties on your head."  What kind of a rule is that? Who cares if she wants to have panties on her head?  This is what my head says to me on days like last Monday.  My normal voice says, "Make her get those panties off her head right now."

Anyway.  On this Monday last week, this day which was definitely a "parenting of least resistance", Hallie got into my bathroom drawers and got out all my makeup.  She brought it to me.  I let her put it on. 

So, seriously now, is two going on three too young for makeup?

My next question, of course, is that she has since had her third birthday.  Um, is she still too young?  If so, when is the appropriate age to start letting them wear makeup?  Five? or fifteen?  Oh dear, it's all so much more complicated than I thought it would be.


  1. When as artfully applied as these photos attest, makeup can be worn at any age with aplomb.

  2. I love the lipstick! I got into my mom's a few times when I was pretty young... and ya know, now I'm not such a big fan of the stuff for myself... but really she pulls it off quite nicely... haha maybe she would like lipsmackers too :D

  3. My girls started small.. I put light eye shadow on them all the time... Madalyn was probably 1. Not sure if there is a rule?

  4. I'd say they need to be old enough to recognize and be confident in the fact that they're beautiful without make-up and don't feel a need to wear it every day. They may hate you for that if you enforce it, but probably would appreciate it later? One thing that turned me off to make-up as a young teen was how friends overnight went from feeling 100% okay with themselves to screaming about how UGLY they were without make-up. I know grown women who still feel that way. And the fact that such thinking is totally acceptable in our society is appalling.

    That said, Hallie looks awesome. :)

  5. aww Hallie is beautiful! haha

    And I completely agree about your parenting strategies. I am often surprised by how controlling I am as well, but every now and then I definitely have least-resistance days.

  6. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup until I was 16 and I think that was a mistake. By the time I was allowed, I didn't know what to do and everyone else did and I felt like a moron. More importantly, however, I think a lot of my self-esteem would have been boosted in middle and high school if I had been allowed to wear at least foundation and whatnot to cover up zits. On the other hand, I think young girls (and sometimes even older girls) shouldn't be into a ton of eye makeup because I think it makes them look sort of whore-y. (just my opinion. I think it's fine on adults. But serious. Why is a fourteen year old wearing all that eyeliner? What is she trying to accomplish with it? She probably doesn't even know. BUT THE BOYS DO.)

  7. i love how happy she looks with it on. she knows she's got this. yeah!!

  8. I think it's great that you let her put it on. The fact that she brought it to you to help her out, rather than just doing it in secret says a lot. When something is totally off limits it's enticing!
    I will sometimes put lip gloss on Annibelle when I'm doing my makeup. I'll also give her a clean blush-brush to play with while I do my make up. She loves it! We also got her her own flavored chap stick for Christmas. I don't let her run around with it all the time and eat it, but I do let her put it on when i put on mine. It makes her feel grown up.
    My mother took me to buy some neutral lipstick and a little purse when I was preparing to enter middle school. It didn't take long after that for my face to explode and I quickly caught on to all other forms of makeup. (A dermatologist would have been cheaper!)
    As my girls grow up I will teach them how and why to apply makeup as they grow up and watch me apply mine.
    I recall getting a little play makeup when I was about 7 or 8. It was the BEST present ever! It had blush, eye shadow, lipstick, and all in many colors! I don't recall being given rules along with that makeup, but I knew better than to wear it to church. And I specifically remember my older sister explaining to me that it is "Never, EVER ok to wear blue eyeshadow!" LOL I'm still afraid to wear it because of that! Hahaha!
    Hallie looks precious, btw. <3